Gay Dating in New York

Gay dating in New York


New York, New York!

New York is an absolute paradise for the LGBT community. We’ve picked a few of our very favorites for this guide, but consider this a starting point rather than a complete list — and we’re always looking for suggestions if you find something you think deserves a place on our list. With that said, let’s get this party started…

New York’s best gay bars


This was really hard to decide. Even harder than...no wait, we can’t make that joke here. Safe to say, it gave us some sleepless nights, and not all of them because we were out getting drunk trying to decide. We’ve managed to come up with three that we feel are truly exceptional and worthy of Chappy’s both prestigious and imaginary ‘Best Bar’ award.


The first of these is Boxers NYC, described as being the finest gay sports bar in the city and beyond. There are all sorts of events going on here, with everything from raucous viewing parties from the Superbowl to the latest episodes of Ru Paul’s Drag Race, while many gay sports leagues teams also meet here after their latest match. With generous happy hours, plenty of big screen televisions, and great pizza, you won’t be short of things to do, even if you struggle to tell the difference between a touchdown and a hole-in-one, or if you don’t really give a puck about ice hockey.

You can find Boxers 37th and 20th and it’s open pretty much whenever you need it to be. On the busiest nights the doors don’t close until 4am, meaning you’ll never miss a second of the action, whether that’s taking place on the screen or on the dancefloor!

For our second recommendation we’re heading over to 275 W and 22nd street and Barracuda Bar, a popular spot a small stage that hosts the kind of glamorous (and sometimes outrageous!) events that you would expect from a New York City gay bar. With friendly faces galore behind the bar and a warm welcome guaranteed, which can be a nice change from the average interaction in the big apple!

If you’re a tourist, the location is another huge plus for this bar. It’s situated extremely close to the world famous Times Square, which is a must visit if you don’t live in NYC, and a must avoid if you do! Of course, you’ll also be close to Central Park, meaning if you’re the romantic type you could combine drinks with a walk in the park, and even ice skating if it’s the right time of year. If romance isn’t your thing, well — this is New York, you can do whatever the hell you want. Better still, nobody else is going to care. At all. Not even if you do that thing.

This is a great part of the city for LGBT bars, with an array of choices if this one turns out not to be your thing, or if it’s a little too crowded — you really can’t go wrong.

We’re going to finish our list of bar recommendations with a truly unmissable place for any gay person, or indeed anyone who believes in equality and social justice. It’s Stonewall Inn, on Christopher Street. Most of you won’t need to be told that this is the scene of one of the most important moments in LGBT history. The Stonewall Riots were a reaction to police raiding the original Stonewall Inn, and the violent way in which they treated those inside. While the police were eventually able to clear the streets and restore calm, the events of June 28th 1969 lead to the first ever gay pride parades, which are now the most iconic events on the LGBT calendar.


While the bar is not exactly the same as it was back then (it was forced to close for a while, and spent some time as a Chinese restaurant amongst other things), but there is plenty of history on show from that famous night. The raid notice left behind by the police is proudly framed and prominently displayed on the wall, and you really get a sense of the bravery that was displayed by the people that were there that night and said “Enough is enough — you can’t do this to us anymore”. Even if you miss every other suggestion we make and take selfies in front of the Empire State Building instead, trust us — you really have to go to this one. You’ll be glad you did.

Gay clubs in New York


That’s the pubs and bars sorted — let’s move on to the clubs. New York’s clubbing scene is fantastic, and it’s no different for the LGBT community. We had a similar struggle narrowing it down to just three as we did for the previous section, but we’re pretty sure that you’re going to be happy with what we have managed to put together.

We’re going to start by telling you that you really need to go to Therapy. Don’t get offended though, it’s a nightclub in the Hell’s Kitchen area of the city. The design is very different from many gay clubs you might have seen before, with a stylish wooden finish instead of flashing neon lights. Now we haven’t got anything against neon (you should see my bedroom), but it’s always nice to have a change every now and again. If you’re a fan of Ru Paul, and seriously, who isn’t, you’ll definitely want to check this place out. A number of contestants from the show have appeared here, including Bob the Drag Queen and Bianca Del Rio. Imagine the bragging rights to your friends if you’re able to tell them you spotted the next big thing before them? Hell, I’m getting jealous just writing about it and it hasn’t even happened yet. As well as great entertainment, there’s also a superb range of cocktails which are expertly put together by the friendly bar staff.

Our next choice is Industry, found on 355 W and 52nd Street. As you may have guessed from the name, the people behind this gay bar have gone for an industrial theme. It’s an after-work favorite for many, with plenty of space for those who want to stay a little longer and dance the night away. They also have a particularly good happy hour, and with the doors staying open until 4am, there really are a great deal of reasons to be happy whenever you choose this place for your night out. It’s also in the Hell’s Kitchen area, making it really easy to visit both here and Therapy in the same night. If you do so, it’ll definitely be one to remember!

Lastly on the club front, we’d like to start spreading the news about Rise. It’s on 9th Avenue, and is super close to Central Park, making it the ideal place to relax with a drink after a walk through the world’s most famous green space. Don’t wear your legs out too much however, you’re going to want to be able to dance the night away until 4am, preferably after sampling some of the unique cocktail creations that the superbly talented people behind the bar have been perfecting over the years.

Not just ice cream...


Finally, we’ve saved the very best until last. Thanks to this tip go to Sara, a cute Swedish girl I met on a bus in Vietnam while trying to ignore the American tourists wearing totally inappropriate vests. It’s the Big Gay Ice Cream Shop, and as Sara puts it “You haven’t had ice cream until you’ve had gay ice cream”. I couldn’t agree more, and some of the creations they have at this place have to be seen to be believed. Seriously, just go, and worry about the calories later, or find a fun way to burn them off together with your date…

So, that’s our guide to the biggest of apples — now it’s really well and truly time for you to get out there and explore.